Women love supportive men (*money too), well, a little extra of that could help from being showed on Bersamamu.
And men, drooling over hot women, is 'a nature' being sane.
Who wouldn't? I mean which men wouldn't? Minus the semi, definitely.
But this, this is rather a mind boggling proposal.
TELLING YOUR WIFE SHE'S NOT PRETTY MAY SOON BE AN OFFENCE.
"KOTA KINABALU: A husband telling his wife that she is no longer pretty in an attempt to humiliate her can be classified as an emotional violence offence if amendments are made to the Domestic Violence Act (DVA)1994.
The plan is to amend the DVA for the inclusion of a clause on emotional violence against women.
Currently, they are only protected only against physical abuse, Women's Development Department director-general Datuk Dr Noorul Ainur Mohd Nur said."
Read it here.
Ok. Now, some would say, hey baby, that baju tak matches with your skirt /pants. Will that constitutes to saying ugly, if she insists of wearing the same when going out with you?
Or, "rasanya you akan nampak a bit hodoh kalau pakai baju turtle neck tu dengan kain batik." Will that end me up being arrested for domestic violence if she insisted of going out with you looking ugly?
Or, "sayang, sikatlah rambut tu, nampak kusutlah, tu haa tahi mata bertepek kat mata tu, bulu hidung you pun ada terkeluar sikit tu, masukkan sikitlah, takut terjatuh kat dalam mee nanti." Will that constitutes to domestic violence if she refused untuk ikut nasihat kita? Lagi pulak, keluar bersama-sama berpegang tangan, dan kita (lelaki) sikit punya enchem dan hot?
Memanglah dulu masa bercinta sentiasa nampak hot. Bila dah kahwin, tinggal steam dari hot jek.
Bukan ke Islam menyuruh isteri berwangian untuk suami, sentiasa tampak cantik untuk suami dan sentiasa hot untuk suami?
Masa pergi office nampak hot, bila balik maid lebih hot dari bini. How's that?
I google search and found this interesting bit from a wife:
"My husband hasn’t been near me in 30 years because I’m so big. I understand that. I wouldn’t want me either, and besides, I’m so big that I don’t have any feelings for sex left. I don’t think he has ever cheated on me, but if he has I don’t care. He has used me and I know it..."
Damn, 30 years! 30 x 365 days. That, my dear readers, equal to a lifetime.
I mingled with people a lot. I strongly believed that even when someone isn't attractive, but if they have an appealing personality, people can't stay away.
Look at Afdlin Shauki. Even man with his physical can be hot too. He knows his good points.
And it sounds to me that if this woman put more stock into what she is not or what she cannot be rather than emphazing her good points.
Dan if this amendment dah diluluskan, adakah domestic violence kalau kita cakap:
1. Sayang, lawalah style rambut perempuan tu.
2. Baby, look at that girl, cantiknya dressing dia.
3. Ayang, tengok gambo (sambil menyelak gambar model di Cleo mag) ni, teringat masa you sebelum kahwin dulu. Dululah.
4. Lau Po, lu dulu ahh manyak syok wohh wa tengok, sikalang ahh, wa tengok ba ku teh lagi wa mau ngap ngap wohh..
5. Kenapa you gunting rambut camtu? Shape muka you tak kenalah.
6. Putihnyaaaaaaaaaaa peha perempuan tu...
7. Kita sengaja telan air liur kuat kuat bila ternampak perempuan cantik.
To me, cantik should be physically and mentally. Kalau fizikal meletup dan hot, tapi mentally macam susu basi, susahlah sikit.
And wait, what if perkataaan dari kita being manipulated into sesuatu yang dianggap 'an attempt to humiliate her?'
Apa yang dianggap an attempt to humiliate her?
Apa dia definisi yang dianggap untuk memalukan dia?
Kalau pakai baju pink striking bersinar sinar dengan seluar orange terang, dan ditegur tak lawa, adakah itu bertujuan memalukan? Bukankah pemilihan itu sendiri adalah memalukan diri sendiri?
Dan sama jugak apabila memakai cermin mata besar ikut trend berframe kan putih tetapi shape muka tak sesuai langsung? Yeah, I see that a lot too.
"Men are very sensitive to women's attractiveness. Women seem to be sensitive to men's height and salary," said Dan Ariely, a professor of behavioral economics at MIT's Program in Media Arts and Sciences and Sloan School of Management.
There you have it, when the husband was more attractive, both partners behaved less supportively with one another, research says.
"Wives mirror, in some ways, the level of support they get from husbands. The husband who's less physically attractive than his wife is getting something more than maybe he can expect to get. He's getting something better than he's providing at that level. So he's going to work hard to maintain that relationship," McNulty told LiveScience.
"Men who are more attractive than their partners would theoretically have access to partners who are more attractive than their current spouses. The 'grass could be greener' mentality could make these men less satisfied and less committed to maintain the marriage," he added.
"Equitable is unlikely to mean the same on every dimension. It just means that overall two people make sense together," said Ariely. Haha. That answers my question when I see hot babes with ugly men.
Anyway, babes out there, be physically and mentally hot ok.. all the time please.
** Words in italic are taken from various sources on the web.